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How old is the parent. Is she still a child herself ??

sometimes all the kid needs is a good slap. But if the parent isn't willing to do this then she needs a good slap

ADHD is a figment of people's imagination so don't try pulling that one

If this little brat isn't sorted out soon then it will grow up to become one of these kids who riots and the parents will be the ones crying on t.v saying "they're a good kid, I don't know where it all went wrong"

Its pretty obvious where it went wrong tho. It goes wrong when the parents don't discipline their children properly

So violence towards the disruptive kid will help? Think about what sort of role model that gives them.

ADHD is not a figemtn of anyones imagination, it is a overused excuse mostly i grant you, I have a son with it, he doesnt do drugs alchohol or crime, doesnt trash anything does well at shcool, he is polite and lovley everyone comments on his manners and lovliness, but he is diagnosed with it, i wont go into why as was doagnosed as to be honest i feel it would be wasted on you. I also wont be replying as again it would be wasted, i just wanted you to know that there are very decent kids out there who do have adhd with parents who work hard to bring them up properly despite it,

We had visitors who brought their brat with them, made him welcome, chatted to him a bit and he seemed ok. Gave him a toy bus to play with and he promptly trashed it, very impressive. His folks weren't happy with him but just told him it was naughty. Haven't been back since though. He wouldn't get anything of mine to amuse himself again anyway. My kids were brought up to behave or suffer the consequences, the same as I was, and they're all ok, all 4 of 'em. You get one go at being a Mum and Dad, get it right and you're ok, get it wrong and you're in the clag.
Some of the posters on here prove that some parents get it wrong, you know who you are.

Don't tell me you've got a degree in sociology !!!!!
Haha
Next time Iraq or Iran threaten nuclear war then just remind England to "tell the teacher !!"

anyway its not violence its discipline
Violence would be punching, drawing blood, beating with a weapon

A simple slap ISNT violence !!

9/10

Excellent trolling, would lol again.

Only 9 !!! I was going for a 10 !!!
I would never condone giving someone elses kid a slap ever but I would definitely have a go at the parents for not dealing with their own kids properly

I know it's all friends and stuff but it should be common courtesy

As these posts continue and fill us in with more details, I would think there's is more than meets the eye. Maybe the parent has the problem! Don't really wish to say anything negative about your friend Glade but there could more going on than you realise.
The reason being, that in one place I lived (not around here) my neighbour had an only child and the father worked away much of the time. The girl would come to my house to play and my daughter went to her house to play. The girl was at that time 8/9 years and didn't play with children of her own age.My daughter about 6yrs. The child, although not naughty, never wanted to be on her own with her mother in her house and I can remember one time when I collected my daughter to take her home. That little girl's face looked at me with such a haunting, intensity, as if begging and she said 'my daddy is away'! Which I already knew and she knew, I already knew.
A little while later, the school called me in and asked me to keep an eye on things, they too, were concerned. Her mother was in fact eventually admitted to a psyciatric hospital for a long period on treatment.
Obviously, that little girl had been trying to tell us something and didn't really know how to, but she was frightened of being on her own with her mother.
You, Glade, know the people concerned and I am not trying to put ideas into your head, but maybe the kid gets more tellings off, than you realise! Maybe you are her safety net for a short period of time.

why doesn't your friend come and visit you when the child is in school?and in the school holidays do stuff with the kid!!!i.e swimming(free for kids on holidays)!!just a thought!!and rogerthetodger you really do sound like your fit to have kids dont you!!!!!NOT

No the parent is not a child, she's early forties. I just don't know if she realises just how bad her child is and it's not her only child by the way. She's not a single parent.
I've tried being nice to her child by saying if you're nice and things, then you won't get told off but the response is usually an evil snide look and then just I'm ignored. As I said before though I'll just in future only see my friend when the child isn't there and have to just smile though gritted teeth if the child is ever present. I'll just stop asking them to mine which is sad but I'm not prepared to have an unruly gobshite running amok amongst my house, terrorising the cats and pissing me off!
thanks for all the comments though

Hi granny, no I've seen the child with both parents and they don't tell it off as much as they should, they let the child get away with murder ( by the way, I'm calling the child "it" as I just don't want to give any clues as to who i'm talking abou in case they come onto wikiwirral and recognise themselves!)

none of us here know the child you are reffering to so we can only judge the child by what you say.
I think the child does have problems and is exspressing them through bad behaviour.
Perhaps granny has hit the nail on the head here and the warning signs are being ignored, or perhaps there are medical issues A.D.H.A - autism - aspergers.or perhaps the child know you don't like it an so is naughty at your house so they can leave.
Maybe you should talk to your friend about her child and see if you can help her with her childs behaviour.
you are after all her friend

Going out on a limb here but have you considered that the child is wise to where he/she can get away with such behavior? Most parents find it embarrassing, rude or out of place to start balling at their kids in other peoples homes. Especially with all the busy bodies about so quick to pick up the phone to social services if you as much as look at your kids in the wrong way. As has already been suggested try meeting in a neutral place where the parent feels comfortable to discipline the child.

if the kids got that much energy, thrash it up and down the stairs or up and down the street, i find the threat of physical exercise helps control a situation, set out a clear consequence for the child, if mum is not interested or is not impressed tell her were to go!